First, let's be clear: ADHD is not "cured." I can see from your question that you understand the word "medication" might not even be the right term.
Let's break it down. What are Adderall and Ritalin? They are amphetamines. Other drugs sold to people with ADHD are based on the same principle. Why?
The Spotlight and the Laser
Imagine your brain naturally functions like a spotlight with ten beams, illuminating many things at once. This is by design. Historically, as the "women who danced with wolves," the partners of hunters, you were deeply connected to your group and your environment. This required a vast sensory capacity—not a burden, but a need. You needed to perceive countless subtle nuances simultaneously to ensure the tribe's survival.
What the drug does is collapse that spotlight into a single laser beam.
This allows you to focus on one task instead of ten. But this creates a new set of problems, and the issues with medication are multi-layered.
The Psychological Trap of the "Cure"
One of the biggest problems is a lack of information. Parents give these drugs to their children, perhaps not realizing they are amphetamine-based. But the deeper issue arises when you start taking a "drug" for a "disease."
I was addicted to methamphetamine about 20 years ago. For me, it was tied to a lifestyle. I knew I was doing something society deemed "wrong." I thought I was leveling up, going from level one to level two or three.
But when you take medication for ADHD, the narrative changes. You're told you're going from level zero to level one—the level of being "functional." This is a devastating psychological trap. It reinforces the idea that you are inherently broken.
And it's not true. The world we live in is simply designed for simple mechanization and things that can be measured. You cannot be measured. You are life itself. A stimulant merely forces your magnificent, multi-faceted awareness into a single point to fit into a system you were never designed for.
Is this good? No. Is it natural? No.
The Chemical Substitute
You are not meant to manage this alone. That is the primary problem of our time and the reason these drugs "work." They act as a substitute for a partner.
Historically, a "woman who danced with wolves" never survived alone. You were raised to read the subtle nuances in people because your very existence depended on knowing who you could trust.
What a stimulant does is mechanize your brain. Sure, we can talk about dopamine, and that’s all fine. But you are not just a collection of chemicals. Adding a chemical to your body—whether it's an amphetamine, alcohol, or anything else—might help you survive in this world. I am not telling you not to take drugs or medication. I have my own addictions.
I am simply asking you to think about what it is you are doing.
Your mindset is critical. If you decide to take something but believe it's bad, it will be bad for you. Whatever it gives you, it will take away in equal measure. If you believe you are more focused on the drug, you will become completely unfocused without it. And that's another danger.
The Real Path Forward
This may be the most important part. Learn to work with your internal world rather than relying on external fixes.
Figure out who you are, who you want to be, and what direction you want to go. Do the things that genuinely interest you. You have us now, a community large enough to support you and help you fulfill your dreams.
It's about realizing what you were destined for—that you were meant to be a mother, a partner. You can try to break that mold and be fiercely independent, but you know how much it hurts you.
In the 1970s, doctors recommended cigarettes for your health. Do you think they recommend stimulants today because they make you better, or because there's a business in it? The advantage over the opioid crisis is that this is a slow, quiet killer. It's subtle, creeping, and all the more dangerous for it.
The problem isn't that you take it. The problem is not knowing what it is or what it does.
So, think about it: Do you want to live in a world where you need it? If so, take it. That's your choice. Or do you want to create your own world where you can be your true self? Believe me, in that world, you won't need it.
The second path is harder, of course. But here’s a practical tip to start: if you need to do tasks you hate, find the "player" within you—an identity that enjoys the game.
And trust me: the most beautiful feelings of hyperfocus, the most profound connection to the Élan Vital through your intuition, will always come without a substance. And you will have the pride of knowing that you did it. Not an external chemical.