What if everything you thought you knew about time was wrong?
The time we see on our watches, the time we meticulously measure, isn't the time we truly live. It's a useful measurement, but it's not the substance of our experience. As a woman with ADHD, you know this better than anyone. Five minutes in a traffic jam can feel like an hour, while five hours can vanish in a minute when you're immersed in something you love.
Time is deeply subjective, isn't it?
The Map vs. The Landscape
This idea isn't mine. It comes from the teachings of French philosopher Henri Bergson, a contemporary of Albert Einstein. And paradoxically, it's Einstein we can thank for our modern predicament with time. In his theory of relativity, he defined time as the fourth dimension, inseparable from space. He established the time you see on your clock as the definitive, functional unit.
But here's the catch: we are not just physical components. We are not our brains, our lungs, or our limbs. Those are parts of a whole. Similarly, the scientific concept of time is just one part of a larger reality.
The time defined by Einstein—the time our modern world runs on—is like a map of a landscape. It's a representation. But it is not the landscape itself.
The Melody of Lived Time
Think of a musical score. You know the notes, you can analyze them individually, but you won't grasp the melody that way. The melody exists in the moment of its playing, where the past blends into the present, and the present already carries a hint of the future.
This is the time we live in, especially those of us with ADHD. This is living time—a time connected to nature, inseparable from our experience, unmeasurable, and impossible to plot on a ruler. It's the time that often resists you because you're trying to view it through the lens of science and measurement.
Forget that. Start living your time.
From Chronos to Kairos
This isn't a new-age concept. For millennia, we operated on a felt sense of time. Even the ancient Greeks had two words for it: Chronos and Kairos.
- Chronos was the measurable, sequential time they could track with sundials.
- Kairos was different. It was the right time, the opportune moment. When discussing a harvest, they wouldn't ask if it was April 4th. They would ask if it was the Kairos for the harvest—if the apple was ripe.
The goal isn't to be "in the present moment." It's to be the present moment. It sounds philosophical, I know, but I'm sure you understand. It’s not a deviation from reality; it’s a return to it.
Become Your Own Clock
My course teaches you how to understand this concept of time and finally stop struggling with it. The point isn't to throw away all the stopwatches in the world. It's about finding the clock you have inside yourself and learning to live by it.
I guarantee you'll never again have a problem being somewhere "on time." You'll simply be there at the right moment, as you should be. Time will cease to be your enemy because you yourself will become time.
This requires a little practice and a guide through the labyrinth, a role I am happy to play. As you continue on this journey, you will see the mosaic of your life begin to assemble itself before your eyes. This isn't chaos or confusion. It's the ability to see connections that others miss and to feel things others don't even know exist.
You have nothing more to add, because you already contain it all.